ITS ABOUT DATING

Is Online Dating Starting a New Sexual Revolution Part-2?

2006-06-08T18:55:00.000-07:00

When they are browsing for their partner online, they have a chance to get to know a little bit about them. They are in the safety of their own home while they chat. Sure, someone could be lying in their communications, but that is true in the offline world of dating too. As I have said before, I believe there is a tendency to be more honest online because you will not have to face the possible rejection the same way as in person.

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Is Online Dating Starting a New Sexual Revolution Part-1?

2006-06-07T19:02:00.000-07:00

The theory is that online dating is causing an increase in people engaging in casual sex - a so-called new sexual revolution.

Sure, some people are using the net to find partners for discreet affairs and intimate encounters. These same people could just be going out and picking someone up in a bar or a club. I think that they are being a little bit safer doing it on the net.

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Dating in a Down Economy Part-5

2006-06-06T20:17:00.000-07:00

Table Thought for the Week: Work, or looking for work, is hard enough these days, so don't spend your free time doing something that's not fun. Think about what makes you happiest, and if dating fits into that, go for it! If not, be good to yourself, and take a well-deserved sabbatical.

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Dating in a Down Economy Part-4

2006-06-05T19:47:00.000-07:00

So what's a singleton to do? I tell my biz dev clients that the point of going to networking events is not to land clients, but to meet people you might enjoy following up with in the future, or to come home with some vital information. If you do either, then it was a successful event. Why not think of your next date not as a potential relationship but as an opportunity to spend time with someone who may actually be interesting? If you have fun or learn something (even if it's that folk-singing male nurses don't exactly flip your biscuit), consider it a good date.

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Dating in a Down Economy Part-4

2006-06-05T18:39:00.000-07:00

Dating in a Down Economy Part-3

2006-06-04T20:45:00.000-07:00

And what if you get beyond the first interview, oops, I mean, date? Another problem arises: if you're both out of work, who pays? The last time this happened, I let him pay – after all, he confessed that he had yet to lay off his housecleaner. This in my mind was my most tragic sacrifice as I seemed to have missed out on the housecleaning gene entirely. (Which may be one of the reasons I'm back on the singles scene … hold on … I quit dating, I don't have to respond to that!)

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Dating in a Down Economy Part-2

2006-06-02T18:43:00.000-07:00

On a job interview, people are used to career changes and layoffs. On a date, however, we often find ourselves defending our status as over-35 and single. At least in the job market they employ euphemisms like "over-qualified," and "priced out of this market." (Note to self – if decide to subject self to dating again, when insulted by next Prince Not-So-Charming simply tell him that I'm over-qualified and priced out of his market.)

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Dating in a Down Economy Part-1

2006-06-01T17:34:00.000-07:00

Dating is hard enough, but add to that a down economy and it's nearly impossible.

Thoughts from the Table: Dating in a Down Economy

When my friend, S, announced that she "quit" dating last week, I found it amusing that I had worded my own exit from the dating scene in exactly the same way. I quit, just like I did my last job. Somewhere along the line dating became indistinguishable from work. My world had become one long, unending interview, answering the same questions over and over again, like "why did you leave your last position?" and "what advantages do you have over a younger, sleeker model?"

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Online Dating Safety Tips Part-8

2006-05-31T19:49:00.000-07:00

In conclusion, safety should be your #1 priority as you venture into the world of online dating. Go slow, take your time to and get to know you potential dates. Like the song says, "Only fools rush in" - taking your time will only increase your chances of meeting that special someone and at the same time help weed out the bad seeds!

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Online Dating Safety Tips Part-7

2006-05-30T08:40:00.000-07:00

6- Don't rush into a face to face meeting - take your time, chat up a storm and get to know each other. Is the person on the other end being honest, or do you get the feeling they are just saying what you want to hear. You are the sole judge and jury in this love trial - use your best judgement!

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Online Dating Safety Tips Part-6

2006-05-29T20:08:00.000-07:00

5- Always review the security and confidentiality policy of the online dating service you are using. Many of the better known online dating sites have very good privacy policies.

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Online Dating Safety Tips Part-5

2006-05-29T12:20:00.000-07:00

4- Be honest about who you are and what you are seeking - do not reveal more than you normally would in a face to face first meeting. If your online contact attempts to presure you into revealing more than you are comfortable with, re-evaluate his/her intentions.

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Online Dating Safety Tips Part-4

2006-05-27T13:15:00.000-07:00

3- If you decide to meet that special someone, always meet in a public place - NEVER meet in private for your first date! Always let someone know where you are going.

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Dating Tips Part-3

2006-05-26T17:22:00.000-07:00

B. Reality checks

Before you judge the other person, be aware that your beliefs and values are based on your reality, which doesn't mean your beliefs and values are right or wrong. We are all different and your date's beliefs and values may not match yours. Knowing and understanding this will make you more flexible and understanding of others, including your dates.

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Online Dating Safety Tips Part-2

2006-05-25T20:08:00.000-07:00

Here are a few good security tips:

1- Never reveal your last name or address to a stranger. If telephone numbers are exchanged, try to use a cell phone with a private number. If you call a stranger at home, always use caller ID blocking to maintain your privacy.

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Online Dating Safety Tips Part-1

2006-05-24T19:58:00.000-07:00

Online personals and dating is a great way to meet that special someone, however it is important to approach it with safety as your first priority. While most online services are very secure and do a good job at helping ensure your privacy and confidentiality, you are ultimately responsable for your own safety.

Most services do not pre-screen their users, therefore they cannot assume any responsability for the people you meet through their sites. This officially grants you the title of screener, a responsability which you must take very seriously. After all, if you are comfortable and feel secure online, you will have much more fun with online dating!

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Tips for dating a single mom Part-6

2006-05-23T18:26:00.000-07:00

6) Be honest. Don't play games with any woman, much less a single mom. If you're looking for a quick unattached situation, let her know it at the onset. Who knows, she could be looking for something casual too. However, mislead her by spending excessive time building trust and intimacy only to abandon her later. This is sophomoric, childish and cruel. Instead, be forthcoming about what you want from the relationship and be brutally honest. A simple conversation about expectations could ward off a lot of anguish later.

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Tips for dating a single mom Part-5

2006-05-22T18:13:00.000-07:00

5) Be patient. A single mom will more than likely move a lot slower than completely unattached women. A single mom, is less likely to "fall into bed" with a man that is expendable or temporary. This is not because she is "scared" so much as she understands that she can't afford a lot of heartache and drama in her life. She understands that her emotional state affects her children. So be patient.

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Tips for dating a single mom Part-4

2006-05-21T11:37:00.000-07:00

4) Be realistic. Lots of moms are not looking for a make-shift daddy for their families. Most women are working, educating themselves and successfully raising their children on their own without a father in the house. So, for starters, don't assume that the single mom that you're dating wants or needs you to play "daddy" or spend time with her kids (early in the relationship). Focus your time on getting acquainted with the "woman" you are dating. Forget about the other stuff. After all, she's not really a big "package". Think of it this way: you're spending time with a beautiful woman. Not the beautiful woman, plus her ex-husband, plus the children, with the dog and divorce lawyer!

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Tips for dating a single mom Part-3

2006-05-19T21:48:00.000-07:00

3) Be sensitive. Many single moms are products from painful divorces and hurtful past relationships. With this being so, a new man in her life might need to be exceedingly sensitive and aware that some single moms are a little gun-shy or fearful of being hurt.

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Tips for dating a single mom Part-2

2006-05-16T18:11:00.000-07:00

2) Be understanding. Most single moms are (or should be) careful with their home space. For instance, a wise single mom wouldn't consider having you exposed to her children unless she really knows and trusts you. For instance, she may not let you meet her children immediately or she may not invite you in after a dinner date. Another example is that a single mom may opt to meet you at a restaurant as opposed to allowing you to pick her up from her home. More than likely, she's protecting her home space.

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Tips for dating a single mom Part-1

2006-05-15T18:28:00.000-07:00

1) Be understanding. As you may know, most single moms can't drop everything on a whim to spend time with the men in their lives. However, with the proper planning and rearranging, most single moms enjoy a wonderful dating and social life! So, just give her a little notice.

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Dating Tips Part-6

2006-05-13T19:07:00.000-07:00

E. Be confident

Confidence can open many doors for you. When you are confident people will have more trust in you and your abilities. Even, if you don't consider yourself to be a confident person....ACT AS IF YOU ARE!

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Dating Tips Part-5

2006-05-10T19:26:00.000-07:00

D. Build rapport

Rapport is the presence of trust, harmony and co-operation in a relationship. If you have rapport with a person you will make them feel like your ally, your partner. You can create rapport by creating commonalitites! You can do this by matching their language, breathing, gestures, facial expression and voice.

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Dating Tips Part-4

2006-05-09T09:09:00.000-07:00

C. Avoid assumptions

Unfortunately, assuming is something we do a lot. So, instead of thinking 'She/he is probably doing this to blah, blah, blah...', ask! It's better to find out than to do guess work. And, if the other person doesn't seem to respond to you straight away, it doesn't mean that he or she isn't interested. Perhaps they just need to get to know you better before they demonstrate any kind of interest.

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Dating Tips Part-3

2006-05-08T12:38:00.000-07:00

Dating Tips Part-2

2006-05-06T18:55:00.000-07:00

A. Ask powerful questions

Asking powerful questions is important in finding out about the other person. For example, you can use words such as what, where and how. These kind of words cannot lead to a simple yes or no answer. Instead they give the other person the opportunity to give a more comprehensive answer. Apart from that you may need to ask more specific questions at certain times. For example, if she says 'I'll call you soon' you may want to ask something like 'When should I expect a call'. Asking for more specific information will avoid misunderstandings!

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Dating Tips Part-1

2006-05-04T18:44:00.000-07:00

At birth, did you get a manual as to ‘how' to use that brain of yours? How to be happy, how to find and keep friends and how to find that ‘special' person, suitable for you? Have you ever learned how to date? Why is it that some people are so good at dating and others aren't? What are they doing different? Is it just because they are lucky? Or did they learn how to do it well? And, if so, is it possible for you to learn how to have more success when it comes to dating? How often do you examine what you do? How often do you sit down and think about what processes you use when it comes to the subject of meeting and getting to know another person? Most of us are too busy to function in this world instead of taking the time to find out how we function and how we could function more effectively! The following tips are just a few taken from my book 'The Art of Dating'.

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Tips on Tiptoeing back onto the dating scene Part-4.

2006-05-03T17:36:00.000-07:00

Both parties should understand what the date is to entail. An invitation to go out to dinner does not mean having a picnic in the park. And different restaurants imply different attire, so mention the restaurant by name when planning a date. An outfit just right for Jerry's Wild Irish Saloon would likely be inappropriate for dinner at the Ritz. Being under- or over-dressed can be embarrassing. And whoever does the inviting should plan to do the paying. On subsequent dates you might want to trade off on expenses. Talk about it. Finances are part of your reality, so be up front about what you can – and can't – afford.

And don't feel you have to stick by the old dating standard of dinner and a movie. Be creative, if moderately so. Cliff climbing is a bit extreme for a first time out. But viewing a gallery opening and reception for a local artist might be just the thing. Or taking in a comedy production by a nearby repertory company (nothing too heavy until you know your date's likes and dislikes) could precede cocktails or coffee at a café.

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Tips on Tiptoeing back onto the dating scene Part-3.

2006-05-02T13:28:00.000-07:00

"Listening closely, and asking pertinent questions about what your date is talking about, shows you care. You and your date should be talking about things that interest you. If it's important to your date, then you owe the courtesy of listening well. Besides, you can score some big points by being truly interested."

It's imperative to play it straight on a first date. "Acting or carrying on false pretenses will surely backfire with the person who is just getting to know you," he says. "Be yourself, be honest, be sincere. That doesn't mean don't have fun. Having fun together is what dating is all about. Just don't try to be someone or something you're not. That will backfire every time."

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Tips on Tiptoeing back onto the dating scene Part-2.

2006-04-30T20:09:00.000-07:00

Think ahead of time about conversations you'd like to have. Run through some topics that interest you, from your work, family and hobbies to current events. This isn't to say you should be able to give a dissertation about the impact of Bedouin tribes on Iraqi politics. But people usually want the people they're seeing to be reasonably well-rounded. And chatting easily about headline news as well as why you like golf (or crochet, or traveling, or gardening, etc.) increases the comfort level of both parties.

Just as you should be prepared to chat, also be ready to listen. "The best conversationalists are good listeners."

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Tips on Tiptoeing back onto the dating scene Part-1.

2006-04-29T19:37:00.000-07:00

Not much can get the stomach squirming as that all-important first date. Especially if you haven't dated in a while and are going out with someone you might like to see again. No matter what, don't take it, or yourself, for granted. For a first date to go smoothly, you have to prepare.

Why? Simply put, first appearances make huge impressions. If you are setting up the date and have no concrete plans, or if you arrive at your destination then are at a loss for words, your date will not be impressed. And rightfully so. The act of dating implies social interaction between two people. So be prepared to carry out your end of that obligation.

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THE SUBTLE ART OF FLIRTING Part-3

2006-04-28T15:49:00.000-07:00

E. CHOW, and how! Light treats like strawberries or angel food cake, maybe dipped in chocolate fondue, or melon balls, shrimp cocktail, peel and eat mangoes together—foods you can get your fingers around or spike with a fondue fork are fun to flirt with.

F. Flirt with your appearance. Ladies, men often see hair worn up as flirtatious and sexy. Men, women find a man in a suit with a flower in his lapel, almost too charming to resist. Having fun with your attire—something subtly offbeat—is a visual invitation to romance.

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THE SUBTLE ART OF FLIRTING Part-2

2006-04-27T15:01:00.000-07:00

C. Flirting is all fun and games. Playing cards, chess or other games allows many opportunities for mirth and wit, the helpmeets of flirtation.

D. Reach out and touch someone.
Footsie (FTSE) isn't just a stock exchange in London. If your feet meet under the table and it feels right, don't pull away—a strong energy current is known to pass from foot to foot.
Touching someone's arm to emphasize a point while you're talking is an engaging technique.
You may even feel so bold as to run your fingers through the other's hair as you compliment him on the color or style. This is especially effective for ladies to men since it's wonderfully unexpected for the man and men's haircuts are usually shorter and simpler allowing a smooth run-through.

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THE SUBTLE ART OF FLIRTING Part-1

2006-04-26T18:24:00.000-07:00

TIPS TO TANTALIZE
A giggle. A sigh. A light touch.

There are many styles of flirting, but the goal remains the same, to beguile the object of your affection. Here are some quick tips on how to tantalize.

A. Flattery detonates the charge of flirting. Used thoughtfully and subtly, flattery sizzles when it's unexpected.
First, determine what strikes you about the object of your desire.
Consider what aspects of his/her self, personality, and/or accomplishments others might not have celebrated.
Aim your comment to be delightful and surprising.
For example, telling a lawyer that she's an excellent speaker is nice. Saying you love her wit and her smile might just make her day.
Letting a banker know that the wave of his hair drives you wild is much more satisfying than saying how great you think his money-managing skills are.

B. And their eyes met across a crowded room…An eye for an eye in romance can open the windows on two souls. Nothing is quite as exhilarating as catching an appealing glint from across the room—don't be scared—look right back, drop your eyes for effect, and try to catch that eye again later.

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Ready to meet a Soulmate?

2006-04-25T20:09:00.000-07:00

You're ready to meet a soulmate for a long-term relationship, but instead you:
1. Believe you can't attract the partner you deserve
2. Keep meeting people who are all wrong for you
3. Get dumped...and dumped again
4. Feel like you're stuck in a rut: dating the same person over and over.
5. Find yourself alone all the time
6. Feel scared and nervous before every date

The good news is: You don't have to spend any more time alone. And you can put an end to those miserable dates that lead nowhere. You'll begin enjoying fun dates with terrific people who have the potential to become your soulmate. Make the right move now, go to: Click Here Dating Tips